Brief Description
Three experienced psychotherapists present a clear and engaging examination of recurring love relationship problems and how to resolve them.
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An important and transformative guide that addresses the protective, yet dysfunctional dynamic where couples avoid genuine connection with an unsatisfying pattern of false intimacy. Drawing on their extensive clinical experience, the authors look at song and dance behavioral routines repeatedly performed by couples in irrelationships and delve into the most difficult emotions and actions to help readers achieve personal breakthroughs.
Written for anyone who wants to understand unhealthy patterns and how to change them, "Irrelationships" will help readers develop interpersonal skills, creating a new opportunity to heal and restore loving relationships.
Mark B. Borg, Jr., PhD, is a community psychologist and psychoanalyst, and a supervisor of psychotherapy at the William Alanson White Institute.
Grant H. Brenner, MD, is a board-certified psychiatrist in private practice, specializing in treating mood and anxiety disorders and the complex problems that may arise in adulthood from childhood trauma and loss.
Daniel Berry, RN, MHA, has practiced as a Registered Nurse in New York City since 1987 and has worked for almost two decades in community-based programs."
Review Quotes
1. "Irrelationship" is an invaluable user s guide to the care and maintenance of adult relationships. It shines a light on challenges we often choose to ignorethe adoption of roles that limit us, the replaying of damaging patterns formed by our earliest experiencesand offers insightful and concrete advice on how to do the work necessary to build stronger and happier partnerships. --Carolyn Parkhurst, Author of "The Dogs of Babel" and "The Nobodies Album"
"Irrelationship" crosses the frontier of self help into a new area which the authors call self-other help. The DREAM Sequence used for recovery from irrelationship is designed for couples to work together and help them reconnect with the wonderful chemistry and emotional connections that initially drew them to one another. --Diana Kirschner, PhD, Bestselling author of "Love in 90 Days"
The road to recovery is stated in user-friendly, self-help termsdiscover the unrealistic song-and-dance both partners are playing, seek to repair it (by sharing responsibility for the problem), and thereby empowering each other to make changes (alternative ways of thinking and behaving) through a mutuality of experience that permits the expression of love in all its wonderful, vital, unpredictable, even downside forms, as the way to find continued growth and collaboration for both members of the couple. --Martin Bloom, PhD, Professor Emeritus, University of Connecticut
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